Good Grief

[omimouse]

I cannot believe I am actually asking this, but I'd rather not spend the next week beating self-doubt over the head.

Did I overreact?

If you don't know what I'm talking about . . . well, it's back only an entry or two, though the original post is locked. (And it's *staying* that way.) If you don't want to know, believe me, I'm not gonna get upset or offended.

This would be my reality check request.

Comments

[chaiya.livejournal.com]

And ask this biased court of public opinion, the jurors being your own friends on your own little corner of the net, if I really did deserve it. I don't think I did. I didn't say what you wanted to hear, obviously, and we clearly have different definitions of etiquette and what is okay and what's not. But deserve threats of bodily harm? No. Nor would I inflict on you what you have sicced on me, were our situations reversed.

Honestly, I was trying to talk with you, this person who I thought of as a member of my extended family, who I thought was usually fairly even-minded ... I was trying to talk with all of you, which I think -- I still think -- is an utterly reasonable thing to do. And I am deeply sorry that you and Louis and possibly Scott think that, in doing so, I overstepped boundaries and broke your trust. I am sorry I can't understand your viewpoint on this, and you can't understand mine. I am sorry you can't see that that's not what I intended, or what I thought I was doing, or what I think I did even now. I'm sorry that you've reacted to your own interpretation of my words, rather than how I intended them. I am sorry that we don't have the same viewpoint, because if you had done the same thing to me (which, from a certain perspective, you have done worse, with all of this lambasting of me in public on your LJ), I might have told you I didn't want your input, but I wouldn't have attacked you, misrepresented you to my friends so that they offer to inflict bodily harm on you, and then decide that such a disconnect in our relating to one another this one time means that we can't ever relate to each other or trust one another again. Which is, y'know, what you've done thus far.

And, in case it isn't obvious, if I didn't still care, I wouldn't bother with all of this work of communicating and trying to explain. It may still come to just giving up because we can't make it work, but I'd really rather not throw the baby out with the bathwater, to use the obvious cliche.

[louisadkins.livejournal.com]

If you are really and truly interested in trying to resolve this, then please (pleasepleaseplease) give it a rest for a bit. With everything else, this is likely to get entangled in other stuff. Give it a few days, try talking sometime next week, just give it a bit.