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[omimouse]

Fucking Goddess-damned Puritanical thought processes.

I don't share them, in fact, I honestly don't even understand them. And what little I do comprehend, disgusts me. Suffice it to say that I get told on a fairly frequent basis that I'm talking about something inapporopriate for the kids in front of them.

By your standards. Your standards. Welcome to Dutch standards.

I'm quite incredibly angry right now. If everyone else was really worried about all this shit, then we wouldn't be living in this arrangement. But we are. Therefore, my conclusion is that the rest of my family is overreacting something fierce out of fear. We're different, therefore we must be extra careful. It doesn't work like that.

We are going to sit down tomorrow, before game. We are going to sit, and the boundaries on 'inappropriate' are going to be figured out.

Because I'll be damned to the lowest pits of the Abyss before I give into the attitude that sex is a secret, and a dirty one at that, one that you never, ever, ever talk about. And I'll rip Sanctuary into shreds before I help my daughters pick that attitude up.

I've watched it damage or destroy too many people to be quiet.

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[mikailova.livejournal.com]

By your standards. Your standards. Welcome to Dutch standards.
I was trying to let things blow over before I posted this comment.
I'm not trying to be nasty or jump down anyone's throat, but there is something that I felt I needed to say.

This isn't Dutchland, it's the United States and some things that fly all right over there don't fly over here. Some things that are fine and dandy around kids there could get your children put in state custody here.

Case in point: A woman from Switzerland (I believe, it was Switzerland, I know it was a European country though) came to the US and was shopping. She left here daughter in the stroller outside the store in front of the big display window and went in to shop. This was a perfectly normal practice in her home country, but here she was arrested for child neglect, thrown into jail and here child was put into protective custody. (An extreme example, I know, but not completely irrelovent.

You live in a household of Americans who weren't raised with Dutch standards and these kids aren't going to live in Dutchland from most of what I've heard, so raising them with Dutch standards, while giving them a good understanding of other people, could cause the same kind of culture shock and problems that you are having right now. Remember to explain to them that different people are different so what you say in one house, might not be ok in another.

We're different, therefore we must be extra careful. It doesn't work like that.

I disagree. When you hold opions that run very different from the norm, you have to be careful, especially in the bible belt where we live. People are very narrowminded here and the girls are going to have enough problems very soon when they start high school and stuff and they need to be able to fit in somewhat. No, I'm not abdocating that they be slaves to popularity and sacrifice their uniqueness, but going to school with no friends, just because you and your family are different sucks. And having no friends outside your own household isn't healthy. Sorry, tired and that was so a tangent. Anyway, being careful here is very important, because people are so narrowminded and you don't want anything to end up hurting the children. Bearcub is old enough to know not to repeat everything she hears to anyone she talks to, but I'm not sure if Puppy is. If Puppy goes to school and starts talking about some of these things, it could have a bad effect. I'm not saying that this conversation in paticular was innapropriate, because I wasn't there, but in the future you might want to keep this in mind.