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[omimouse]

Having read through several horror stories of women who were *horribly* mistreated by their doctors while in labour . . .

Yeeeeeeah, I'm looking into local midwives, thankyouverymuch. I might not care for some of the overt fluffiness, but right now, I'll take the assurances that I won't have procedures I don't actually need rammed down my throat on pain of loosing custody of my baby if I don't comply.

And yes, there is at least one woman who had her child taken away because she refused to blanket consent to a c-section when there was no sign whatsoever that she would even *need* one.

I'm gonna go hide under my blankets and remind myself that I want children very badly, but fucking hell, I am going to pick out where I give birth *very* carefully indeed. Well, at least as carefully as I can.

This is so not helping the panic attacks.

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[mama-hogswatch.livejournal.com]

Stop reading the horror stories now. They happen, yes. But the anti-doctor propaganda is as stupid as the anti-midwife propaganda. The truth is more in the middle.

For what it's worth, you can interview a doc about his attitude toward c-sections early on, and fire him if you don't like what he says. (I did this, by the way, and got a doc I liked -- midwives being a little thin on the ground 15 years ago).

[fluffworld.livejournal.com]

What this lady says.
Hope you can find a nice doc you can trust reasonably soon and have one less thing to worry about.

[tendyl.livejournal.com]

Thirded! The horror stories happen, but hell...very, very rare!

[pagawne.livejournal.com]

Write me at pgawneatverizondotnet I think I can be of some help here. I also need some information from you if I am going to do a blanket for you.

[64tbird.livejournal.com]

I used doctors and a birth coach in the hospital and I wrote a VERY CLEAR birth plan.

All the docs did basically, was catch the baby. The nurses did everything else.

The midwifery rules and regs vary from state to state.

No matter what, birthing classes are essential. If you can find a Bradley class, natural childbirth, I loved that.

My hospital experience was fine. They didn't force me into monitors or drugs, but it was very nice to have the option. In the end of both pregnancies, I was glad to be in the hospital. David has his cord around his neck twice, so the doc likely saved his life. Andrew had his wrapped around his shoulder.

It was nice to have the after care too - to have people checking on me and the baby and teaching my stuff.

I gave birth to both boys with no drugs, no episiotomy, and minimal intervention. And the intervention was absolutely necessary.

So stop reading horror stories. It's womens version of war stories.... LOOK WHAT I SURVIVED! and it's usually exaggerated.

[reana.livejournal.com]

Truthfully, dear, it's vanishingly rare that that type of mistreatment occurs. You have the right to select the doctor and approve of the doctor's methods well before labor. You and Louis also have the right to refuse treatment when and if you think it is unneccesary, and any sane nurse would be able to clearly explain why it should be. Nurses do 95% of the work, trust me.

All in all, your chances of getting one of those rare quacks are less than your chance of getting into a car accident on the way to the hospital for labor. And truthfully, should you need a hospital, even a midwife will tell you. And I'm not sure that the state you're living in certifies midwives, you may want to check on that.

[mikailova.livejournal.com]

Also, if you have any type of risk a mid-wife is going to send you to a Doc. They have to. It's the law. And the fact that you had PSOD, probably puts you in the high-risk category.

My doc was awesome. She did everything the way I wanted it. If I hadn't had her, the baby and I would've died. My water broke, and then NOTHING happend. I had no contractions. I had to be given meds to move my birth along, or it would've never happened. Also my girl got stuck and I had to have the little suction thing to get her out. Almost needed a C-Section. But other than that necessary intervention, my doc followed my birthing plan to the letter, even let me wait to the last possible minute to start pushing so the adoptive parents could be there for the birth.

Those horror stories are grossly over rated. Also while you may want things a certain way, you are NOT a doctor. A lot of women bitch that they're doctor didn't follow HER personal birthing plan. When the truth is, her birthing plan was not safe for her and baby, but she's mad, because she didn't get her way.