May she get out of life exactly what she puts into it.
Oh, she will. She *absolutely* will.
While I was on hiatus from a 'net connection, I started thinking about all the stuff that Jeff's mother has pulled over the years, and decided that I needed to lay it all out for her, and to let her know that none of it was acceptable and none of it would be tolerated for a moment longer. I said, right in the letter, that if she didn't stop, she wouldn't see any of us in the coming years. Came out to nine handwritten pages. I don't know if I expect a reply...I know I won't reply to her (I closed the letter by letting her know that I probably wouldn't continue the conversation, because I'd said every single thing I could possibly say about the situations. But I put it better than that:), and I know this is probably the death knell of Sammy's relationship with her paternal grandparents (She hasn't seen them since Thanksgiving, and I've explained that it is because they don't respect the fact that we are her parents, not them) because she may know a lot about piety but nothing about compromise or letting her adult children *be* adults in their interactions. She's going to blame me for all of this...and I just don't care any longer. Make me the bad guy. Put a picture of me on the dart board and riddle it with holes. Just stop hurting the people I love.
****HUG**** I'm sorry K was stupid enough to give up relationships with all of you, and that she's hurt you all so.
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Date: 2005-08-10 10:27 pm (UTC)Oh, she will. She *absolutely* will.
While I was on hiatus from a 'net connection, I started thinking about all the stuff that Jeff's mother has pulled over the years, and decided that I needed to lay it all out for her, and to let her know that none of it was acceptable and none of it would be tolerated for a moment longer. I said, right in the letter, that if she didn't stop, she wouldn't see any of us in the coming years. Came out to nine handwritten pages. I don't know if I expect a reply...I know I won't reply to her (I closed the letter by letting her know that I probably wouldn't continue the conversation, because I'd said every single thing I could possibly say about the situations. But I put it better than that:), and I know this is probably the death knell of Sammy's relationship with her paternal grandparents (She hasn't seen them since Thanksgiving, and I've explained that it is because they don't respect the fact that we are her parents, not them) because she may know a lot about piety but nothing about compromise or letting her adult children *be* adults in their interactions. She's going to blame me for all of this...and I just don't care any longer. Make me the bad guy. Put a picture of me on the dart board and riddle it with holes. Just stop hurting the people I love.
****HUG**** I'm sorry K was stupid enough to give up relationships with all of you, and that she's hurt you all so.
Gessi