However, it is rude to have a loud conversation about such topics within earshot of the person who smokes or drinks. It's the same as getting in their face about their choices.
I disagree with this statement. I do not feel one should have to guard conversational topics due to the fact that someone in ear shot might have any sort of experience concerning the topic, or even might not approve of the subject(s).
I do not think that someone should be intentionally rude, but I feel that the rudeness boundary is drawn at a different point, here (Sanctuary), than you are allowing for.
Have you ever been in public and said something really loud within earshot of a rude person like about cutting in line or something just for the purpose of telling them off without getting in their face? That's what it comes across as when someone hears you saying such things, but not to their face.
The difference I see, here, is that (in your example) you are doing something intentionally, as an attempt to chastise someone; you are doing such, on purpose. Just because someone holds a different opinion than yours, does not mean they should be restricted from expressing it in your presence. Everyone has the freedom of choice.
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regna
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Date: 2004-11-30 06:41 pm (UTC)I disagree with this statement. I do not feel one should have to guard conversational topics due to the fact that someone in ear shot might have any sort of experience concerning the topic, or even might not approve of the subject(s).
I do not think that someone should be intentionally rude, but I feel that the rudeness boundary is drawn at a different point, here (Sanctuary), than you are allowing for.
Have you ever been in public and said something really loud within earshot of a rude person like about cutting in line or something just for the purpose of telling them off without getting in their face? That's what it comes across as when someone hears you saying such things, but not to their face.
The difference I see, here, is that (in your example) you are doing something intentionally, as an attempt to chastise someone; you are doing such, on purpose. Just because someone holds a different opinion than yours, does not mean they should be restricted from expressing it in your presence. Everyone has the freedom of choice.