omimouse | I do not like this woman

warinbear sent the e-mail a few days ago. K's reply came in today.

For the first time in my life online, I find myself wanting to post an e-mail. Namely, the one she sent us. Warin was not even able to get all of the way through it. The rest of us here at Sanctuary read it instead. We then proceeded to hug our bear. I don't know what to think of his response when someone referenced "Warin's mother" after he got the e-mail. "I have a mother?"

For those of you who know K, no, she still cannot see anything that she did as wrong. Warin has chosen to not respond. He knows that it will do nothing for how K thinks or acts, and it will not help him either. As for me, I want to reply to her. I have four years of pent up rage and despair to unleash in her face.

I want to reply to her e-mail. I want to explain to her in small words exactly how she lost her son. I want her to hurt the way my daughters are hurting, the way my husband is hurting. I want to see the dawning look of horror and despair on her face when she finally realizes all that she has done; when all the emotions that she has caused come home to roost.

I want her to live a very long life, alone, unwanted, and unloved, because Warin expected nothing less out of life because of her. Her God loves her, and I do not believe that she hears him crying as she steps further and further away from His teachings of compassion, love, mercy, kindness, and forgiveness.

I could almost wish right now to forget that I set an example for my children by my actions. I will probably write that letter, just to get it out of my system. I do not think that I will send it. It would do nothing, change nothing, and I am not getting into a shouting match with an abusive Schwein.

Don't ask me to wish for good things for her, please. It's all I can do at the moment to not actively wish for bad things for her. And the only reason I'm not is because she isn't worth the karma.

But-

May she get out of life exactly what she puts into it.

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Just writing to let you know I told

ceelove some about what happened ... three parts neutral, one part disgusted.

Whynot you have

fernling on the friendslist? -- that's Warin's and my other sister.

a) Was the 3:1 ratio your reaction or

ceelove's?

b) How long has

fernling had an account? <goes to add her>

a) That's my approximation of the ratio I put into that particular letter (which I later thought to forward to li'l sis too).

b) Don't exactly recall, but I imagine you can find her first post. Might be a good idea to introduce yourself -- when my old friend Daniel,

zerodan, first commented in her journal, she was scared because she had no idea who he was. =)

*hugs*

May she get out of life exactly what she puts into it.

That is the perfect thing to say, honey. I'm so sorry that this crap happened to you and yours.

I hope that you, Warin and the rest of Sanctuary recover quickly. I'm sending hugs for everyone who wants one.

*woolfhug*

I'd say she's already getting back some of what she's putting in...

Please give Warin a hug for me. And make sure he gives you one from me.

Do you know how to do a mirror protection spell? IF not write me at crippledkat(at)msn(dot)com and I will give you particulars. What is neat is that the girls can learn them to protect themselves and they are one of the easiest to do.

Ugh, ugh, ugh, ugh, ugh. What an ugly situation - I'm so sorry you (inclusive) are having to deal with it. I think you're handling things as well as can be expected, and *hugs* for the lot of you.

I still don't know what to say. I really want to see that letter, though. Does that make me evil?

May she get out of life exactly what she puts into it.

Oh, she will. She *absolutely* will.

While I was on hiatus from a 'net connection, I started thinking about all the stuff that Jeff's mother has pulled over the years, and decided that I needed to lay it all out for her, and to let her know that none of it was acceptable and none of it would be tolerated for a moment longer. I said, right in the letter, that if she didn't stop, she wouldn't see any of us in the coming years. Came out to nine handwritten pages. I don't know if I expect a reply...I know I won't reply to her (I closed the letter by letting her know that I probably wouldn't continue the conversation, because I'd said every single thing I could possibly say about the situations. But I put it better than that:), and I know this is probably the death knell of Sammy's relationship with her paternal grandparents (She hasn't seen them since Thanksgiving, and I've explained that it is because they don't respect the fact that we are her parents, not them) because she may know a lot about piety but nothing about compromise or letting her adult children *be* adults in their interactions. She's going to blame me for all of this...and I just don't care any longer. Make me the bad guy. Put a picture of me on the dart board and riddle it with holes. Just stop hurting the people I love.

****HUG**** I'm sorry K was stupid enough to give up relationships with all of you, and that she's hurt you all so.

Gessi

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