omimouse | I dislike family politics

warinbear's grandfather sent him an e-mail. He wants to come and visit.

The man is a known child molester.

catchild's journal holds more info on the subject.

Old New England family. He is the family patriarch. The whole family knows that he likes little girls, and most of them carefully pretend that the problem doesn't exist.

Old family, old blood, and he has the family estate. According to his eldest daughter (

warinbear's mom) who also happens to be the executer of his estate, he has a right to have access to every member of his family. Quoting: " That was a long time ago. He knows what he did was inappropriate; he doesn't do it anymore. Besides, he only did it to his own daughters, and only to make them better wives. And he has never done it to anyone else." Direct quote, to the best of

catchild memory, from four years ago.

If you do anything that upsets her, you get cut out of any will that she has any control over, and she does his books and estate for him. And not letting him have access to his kids, grandkids, and great-grandkids upsets her. And she still believes that he has a right to see his great-grandchildren, even after one of her sisters sent a letter to every family member that she had an address for. Said letter was a copy of one that she had sent her father, and listed what he had done to her and to her older daughter.

Our daughters,

catchild and myself are, to the best of my knowledge, the only female family members that he has not molested in some way.

I despise family politics.

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note: I'm a little late making these; please see also my response to

catchild's previous.

And no, with Kathy money and appearances are NOT everything. She cares about education -- moved to bass-ackwards Alabama far from any family to get it for her kids, and by goddess, it worked. She cares about the environment, for its own sake. She cares about her children's happiness and well-being, though her worldview insists that we'll be truly happier as strict modern Baptists.

Neither "appearances" nor "money" have to do with the letters and phone calls we share sometimes. She didn't lead Girl Scouts for umpteen years to get into the society pages. Her stamp club and canoeing aren't part of some dark plot to preserve the family's status and influence. She's a real person. I think the worst problem between her and the rest of the world is that she tries to share her values too hard and too blindly, which may be idiotically short-sighted but isn't evil.

*shudder* It feels weird defending my grandfather and my mother to the rest of my family.

It feels weird defending my grandfather and my mother to the rest of my family.

I know the feeling . . . My comment (at the time of this writing, the last one on the page) includes something that may not be very well phrased, but is intended to say that Grampa did a lot of things in his life, and some of them were bad, but not all of them were. The same applies to Mom.

I dislike family politics

axis of evil, anyone? =(

Re: axis of evil, anyone? =(