I dislike family politics

[omimouse]

warinbear's grandfather sent him an e-mail. He wants to come and visit.

The man is a known child molester. catchild's journal holds more info on the subject.

Old New England family. He is the family patriarch. The whole family knows that he likes little girls, and most of them carefully pretend that the problem doesn't exist.

Old family, old blood, and he has the family estate. According to his eldest daughter (warinbear's mom) who also happens to be the executer of his estate, he has a right to have access to every member of his family. Quoting: " That was a long time ago. He knows what he did was inappropriate; he doesn't do it anymore. Besides, he only did it to his own daughters, and only to make them better wives. And he has never done it to anyone else." Direct quote, to the best of catchild memory, from four years ago.

If you do anything that upsets her, you get cut out of any will that she has any control over, and she does his books and estate for him. And not letting him have access to his kids, grandkids, and great-grandkids upsets her. And she still believes that he has a right to see his great-grandchildren, even after one of her sisters sent a letter to every family member that she had an address for. Said letter was a copy of one that she had sent her father, and listed what he had done to her and to her older daughter.

Our daughters, catchild and myself are, to the best of my knowledge, the only female family members that he has not molested in some way.

I despise family politics.

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Re: Ummm

[odanu.livejournal.com]

Not that this is your problem in any way, or that I disagree with you and your family staying away from the bastard (wholeheartedly approve!)....if it helps, it might be good to remember that she was abused, and all the crap she puts you through, including and especially the attitude that only appearance matters, is all about her own defenses against what was done to her. If nothing else, it might help to make interactions with the bee-itch bearable. Not to mention, suddenly treating her with compassion and/or pity would knock her off balance and probably piss the hell out of her.

(I discovered a long time ago that the best response to truly poisonous people is to be consistently nice, and firm with my boundaries, and uninterested in their drama, no matter what....it drives them batty, and gives my sadistic little heart a thrill -- and eventually they stop trying to get your goat because they're not getting anywhere)

In any case, ya'll know I'm here, I care, and I'm rooting for all of you.